Dreams

I always try to be an open minded person. I like to hear other people's points of view and opinions because everyone is different and therefore thinks differently. I love advice and suggestions (especially when they are given in a positive way). And I don't like to decide anything unless I've heard both sides of the story or tried to put myself in the other person's shoes. With that being said, I have recently changed my mind about something.

Have you ever seen those parents like the one's on American Idol? The parents that never doubt that their child is awesome even though everyone else cringes when they hear them sing. I have always said I would never be that parent that gives my children an unrealistic view of their talents.

With that being said, I recently had a conversation about dreams with Tyler. Tyler and I still have unfulfilled dreams. And what is holding us back? I am not talking about the dreams we had in elementary school when everyone wanted to play in the NBA and be a famous actor/actress or singer. The dreams I am referring to are the ones that you have to work for, train for, sweat, and stress for. The dreams that people say that anyone can achieve if they work hard enough for.

So, I thought about those American Idol type parents. And I thought about all the things I believe make up a good parent. How would a conversation go with your child when you tell them they aren't good enough to do something they love? How much better would a conversation go if you told them that they needed to work harder AND you (as a parent) would be there to support them the whole way? (and not necessarily financially support them, but physically be there for them).

It was then that I decided that I want to be like those American Idol parents (sorta). I want to be the one that goes with my children to auditions, tests, practices, or field trips so that my child knows that I support them in doing what they love. I want them to know that I want them to be happy regardless if they are the best because really, who is the best at anything? Is there really one great singer, athlete, or actor out there?

So I am publicly (or to all 10 of you that read this) going to pledge to help my children fulfill their dreams even if they aren't successful because I want my children to know that I am always here for them and I want to see them happy.

I should also say that I will only support dreams that are in accordance with my beliefs. It has to be a good dream for me to support them. I just had to make that clear. Any dreams of becoming a mother by age 14 or dancing in certain places in Vegas will not be supported.

Thank you for reading my thoughts, over and out!